Under the Epidemic, College Students Should Learn to Improve Their Mental Toughness
"These graduates have been more affected by the epidemic than we thought. They have never spent three years of their youth in the epidemic," he said. In a recent online lecture held by Tsinghua University, Professor Peng Kaiping, dean of the School of Social Sciences at Tsinghua University, revealed that a survey conducted last year showed that the young generation, in the social closed environment caused by the COVID-19 pandemic, usually have no motivation to study, no interest in life, no ability to socialize, and a sense of meaninglessness in life, and this phenomenon is widespread. According to Peng, college students need to improve their mental toughness under the epidemic.
Life is a marathon, late rely on toughness
"Life is a marathon, not a sprint. In the course of social competition, it depends on physical strength in the early stage, brain power in the middle stage and toughness in the late stage." According to Peng Kaiping, mental resilience can be divided into three levels of ability. The first level is resilience, also known as resilience, which is the mental ability to recover quickly from adversity, conflict, pain, failure and stress. The second layer is resistance to pressure, also known as wear resistance, willpower, self-control, etc., refers to a person's efforts and endurance in the face of long-term goals. "Some shocks are not over in a short period of time. For example, we have been fighting against the novel coronavirus for more than two years. In this process, we need to have a kind of wear resistance and indomitable spirit." Peng Kaiping introduced, this is higher than the ability to resilience, in the face of pressure setbacks, need to endure, endure, carry. The third layer is post-traumatic growth and development, the positive psychological changes and improved mental functioning experienced as a result of adversity and other challenges. This level, according to Peng, is the highest level of mental resilience, which involves not only recovering psychologically but also using adversity as a means and opportunity for growth and benefit.
"Improving mental toughness is about improving these three levels of ability. When you see setbacks as an experience and a process on the way to success, it feels less painful." Peng Kaiping said.
Keep a positive attitude to find the "happiness flow" of life
Staying positive is the main way to improve your mental toughness. But epidemic prevention and control, distance learning, employment setbacks... In the face of the "chickenshit" in life, negative emotions are inevitable, this time how to maintain positive mindfulness? Peng Kaiping proposed the "eight positive methods" to deal with negative emotions, including deep breathing, smelling incense, touching tanzhong, maintaining humor, talking, concentrating, writing, sports, etc., so that people can learn to transcend and transcend from negative experiences.
In addition, there is an ability to stick to it. Peng Kaiping believes that once you have a strong interest in anything, make you focus and immerse yourself in it, make you forget both things and realize the unity of knowledge and practice, you can always be driven by a pleasant power, to constantly strive for, create and explore. When you are done, you will feel a genuine sense of excitement, joy, inspiration, awe and sublimation to find value and meaning in your life. "This is the blessing we seek!" Peng Kaiping said.
Mental toughness also needs to be honed, and physical exercise is a particularly good way to practice. "When we exercise, it's not just about fitness, it's also about willpower and wear resistance. Therefore, college students should not only read books and take exams, but must actively participate in physical exercise." Peng Kaiping said that life is not all smooth sailing, like Romain Rolland said: recognize the truth of life, still love it. Learn to accept failure, and then give yourself enough drive to constantly feel more accomplished, so that the good things in life will continue to flow.
As the epidemic increases employment pressure, self-expectations should be reasonable
Yan Xiaoxiao is a medical college health communication major of a junior student, in order to find a job in the future more than a way out, she passed the primary school teacher qualification exam in the first semester of the third year.
In an interview with the science Times reporter, Yan Xiaoxiao admitted that because the students around her are too good, she is very worried about losing their competitiveness in the fierce competition, sometimes feel very anxious in the heart.
Under the epidemic, the employment of college students is facing greater pressure. A frustrated interview or resume rejection can create a negative mentality. In view of the difficult employment of college students, senior psychology teacher, the National Health Commission psychotherapist Cao Dagang said in an interview with the Science Times reporter, "The epidemic factors increase the difficulty of employment, but in the employment process, college students should not blindly follow, nor eager for success and instant benefits, to have an objective cognition of their own personality characteristics have a reasonable analysis, Avoid a herd mentality by having a clear assessment of whether your education is a match for your career and a long-term plan for your future career direction."
Cao Dagang said that some college students in the process of employment, self-cognition is insufficient, there is conceit, arrogant psychology, career expectations are too high, once encountered many rejections, it is likely to lead to problems in the self-evaluation system; Some have inferiority and cowardice, because the school is not a famous university, the major is not popular enough, or their own conditions are not excellent enough, feel that they are inferior to others everywhere, underestimate their own ability and value, lack the courage to promote their own; Some people are eager for quick success and instant benefits, do not consider their professional, only focus on the "education" immediately "cash", resulting in future career development setbacks; Some students have a waiting mentality, poor employment initiative, blindly rely on the help of family and relatives, suffer from gain and loss, and finally miss many opportunities.
"In the process of employment, on the one hand, college students should take the initiative to adapt to the needs of the society, adjust their expectations reasonably, and avoid the situation of overachieving. On the other hand, you should also take the initiative to show your talent, scientific and reasonable career planning, the employment process as an important experience to gain personal career experience." Cao Dagang said that whether the success of employment, personal ability is one aspect, opportunity is also an aspect, in addition, the cultural concept of the employer is also an aspect, if temporarily did not find a particularly satisfactory job, do not complain, more do not complain, can be appropriate to reduce expectations, take the first employment, after choosing a career or entrepreneurship approach, to accumulate experience for the future work.
